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Holy Indignation, Batman!

Jane Jimenez

Jane Jimenez

November 29, 2004

Life was never so simple as when the Holy Crusader faced down evil in Gotham City. No matter the villain…The Riddler, The Penguin, The Joker…Batman always defeated his enemy.

Batman, my hero.  He knew what evil looked like, and he went after it with a vengeance.  He chased, he sped, he dashed and crashed.  And when he finally had his hands on the dastardly villain, he knew how to fight…BANG!  SLAM!  POW*!#/*

The NFL could take a few lessons from Batman.  Once billed as wholesome family entertainment, it has made itself a haven for filth.  Janet’s bra snaps and the best Commissioner Tagliabue can do is say he was “extremely disappointed.”  Nicolette’s towel drops and the NFL calls the incident “inappropriate.”  Slap, punch, crunch and cry!  Holy Indignation, Batman!

The NFL has spawned The Refrigerator, Iron Man, The Boomer, and The Purple People Eaters.   So tell me one thing.  Where is all this testosterone when you need it…in the corporate board room…facing down the porn producers intent on degrading the last bastion of wholesome family entertainment?

Does anyone need to remind the good Commissioner of Football City that he owns ABC on Monday nights?  Why, after $550,000 in fines and the screams from millions of angry moms and dads, did Terrell Owens think he could get a pass from his employer for this stunt?

Let’s say we actually believe Janet’s story, her “accident” was an instantaneous gaff in front of the camera where there was no time to turn away.  We’re shocked.  Tongues wag.  We decry and shout and hammer the table.  No more! Slam, Bang!

But what about Nicolette’s story?  Planning a commercial takes months and involves hundreds of people.  From top to bottom, ABC and NFL, commissioners, writers, cameramen, lighting directors, film editors and towel distributors are involved in concocting a 30-second strip tease.  Not to mention Terrell’s bragging rights in the locker room.

Where is Batman when we need him?  Ka-Crash! Ka-Bam! Ka-Pow!

We have lost the ability to be indignant at the moments of decision when the “right decision” is possible.  At any point in the process of filming this locker room seduction scene, even one person with good sense and courage could have shut down this assault on America.

If the NFL had learned anything at all from SuperBawdy XXXVIII, Terrell, his agent, his coach, and his friends wouldn’t have given one wink to the idea of Terrell wrapping his arms around a naked girly-girl on prime time national television.

Hey, Commissioner T, take a lesson from another guy in tight tights.  Batman wasn’t just “disappointed” when The Joker hit Gotham.  He was enraged!

Batman left no stone unturned in his battle to save the city.  Using everything at his disposal…Batgadgets, Batlab, Batcave, and Batmobile…tights, cape and mask…Batman set out to win.  Ka-Crash! Ka-Bam! Ka-Pow!

It’s time for the NFL to show the courage of the Holy Crusader.  Using the same ingenuity and strategizing needed to create a winning two-minute drill, the good Commissioner needs to take charge.  Out with the “disappointment” and in with the “indignation.”  Raise a little ruckus, Paul.  You and all your friends, get rowdy to tonight.  BANG!  SLAM!  POW*!#/*

Holy indignation, Batman!  Can you believe a league of grown men in tights can’t solve this problem?  You can’t?

Well…neither can we.

For thoughts on Superbawdy XXXVIII:  Thank You, Janet

Open Letter to Paul Tagliabue:  Dear Paul

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Kinsey: Brave New World?

Jane Jimenez

Jane Jimenez

November 19, 2004

On December 7, 1941, Japan attacked Pearl Harbor.  World War II focused national attention on a global threat to mankind.  Meanwhile, unobtrusively, in the heartland of America, the seed of a quieter, but equally profound attack on America was taking root.

On the quiet campus of Indiana University, a group of researchers was busy interviewing men and women, collecting data on their intimate sex lives.  Alfred Kinsey seemed to be the perfect man to direct this project:  married, a father of three children, a zoologist well-respected for his work with gall wasps, and known around campus for his open and comfortable approach to talking about sex.

Kinsey’s move from gall wasps to humans began even before 1938 when popular lore has it that “the Association of Women Students petitioned Indiana University for a course for students who were married or contemplating marriage.”  On the side, outside of his regular teaching duties in the zoology department, he began to collect sexual histories, developing an extensive list of over 350 interview questions which he committed to memory.

When soldiers returned home in 1945, Kinsey was on the home stretch of preparing his findings for the American public.  On January 5, 1948, Sexual Behavior in the Human Male was published.  While it had only one week as #1, it spent 43 weeks, just short of one year, on The New York Times bestseller’s list.  A second volume, Sexual Behavior in the Human Female, followed in 1953.

Kinsey’s authority on sexual behavior went virtually unchallenged for thirty years.  Then on July 23, 1981, at the Fifth World Congress of Sexology in Jerusalem, a diminutive American psychologist stepped to the podium to present her research findings to a standing-room only session.

I was confident my sexology colleagues would be as outraged as was I by these tables [Tables 30-34 from Male] and the child data describing Kinsey’s reliance on pedophiles as his child sex experimenters.  Perhaps worst of all for me, as a scholar and a mother were pages 160 and 161 where Kinsey claimed his data came from ‘interviews.’  How could he say 196 little children—some as young as two months of age—enjoyed ‘fainting,’ ‘screaming,’ ‘weeping,’ and ‘convulsing’?  How could he call these children’s responses evidence of their sexual pleasure and ‘climax’?  I called it evidence of terror, of pain, as well as criminal.  One of us was very, very sexually mixed up.

Dr. Reisman laid out her charges methodically, presenting slides of Tables 30-34 and analyzing the specific entries which calculated the rates and timed the speeds of orgasms in at least 317 infants and children.  How, she challenged the audience, did rape and molestation of children ever make the transition from criminal activity to research?  And she rested her case.

“The reaction in the room was heavy:  it was numbing for some, discomforting for others.”  A Kinsey Institute representative present for her presentation predictably “protested that none of this was true.”  Yet, Dr. Reisman felt certain her documentation would be a call to action, stimulating an immediate and thorough scientific review of Kinsey’s research.

She recalls what actually happened. “Late that afternoon my young assistant from Haifa University returned from lunch visibly shaken.  She had dined at a private table with the international executives of the conference.  My paper was hotly contested and largely condemned, since everyone at her table of about twelve men and women wholeheartedly agreed that children could, indeed, have ‘loving’ sex with adults.”

This potential “loving sex” is best described by Kinsey’s coauthor Dr. Paul Gebhard in a letter to Dr. Reisman, where he explained the source of data on the tables in question.  The data, Gebhard explained, “were obtained from parents, teachers and male homosexuals, and …some of Kinsey’s men used ‘manual and oral techniques’ to catalog how many ‘orgasms’ infants and children could produce in a given amount of time.”

Further research by Reisman linked “some of Kinsey’s men” to one man in particular, Mr. Rex King.  Biographer James Jones fleshes out the details in an interview for a Yorkshire documentary, Secret History: Kinsey’s Paedophiles.  “Kinsey relied upon [King] for the chapter on childhood sexuality in the male volume….I think that he was in the presence of pathology at large and…Kinsey…elevated to, you know, the realm of scientific information…what should have been dismissed as unreliable, self serving data provided by a predatory pedophile.”

While trained sexologists easily dismissed this sexual abuse of children as “loving sex with adults,” persistent inquiries from concerned lay people finally prompted The Kinsey Institute to post responses to these charges on its web site.  These statements, drafted by Director John Bancroft, M.D., are carefully worded denials that proceed to confirm the truth of the charges but “explain” them in “harmless” terms.  In other words, “It depends on what the meaning of is is.”

Before you buy a ticket to the new movie Kinsey, consider this.  Papers promote the film with an endorsement from Paul Gebhard, the man who catalogued orgasms of infants and children and used this to demonstrate the benefits of incest.  He likes the film.  He gives Kinsey a thumbs-up.

What could this film do to offend Mr. Gebhard?  He gives a thumbs-up to Kinsey, but consider who is behind the thumb.  Endorsing fame and adulation for one of the greatest child abusers of the modern world is child’s play for a man unmoved by the ‘screaming,’ ‘weeping,’ and ‘convulsing’ of innocent children.

Considering seeing Kinsey?  Don’t.

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Old as the Hills

Jane Jimenez

Jane Jimenez

November 12, 2004

It was an old house…ancient even…abused and crumbling.  Windows twisted out on bent hinges, leaving ample space to climb through and into the back bedroom where the black paint of recent renters covered the peeling red and green layers of past owners.  Wood floors creaked, plaster walls cracked open, and loose rusty pipes rumbled below as my husband and I walked through, exploring our first home.

Thirty years later, this sorry-excuse-for-a-house has risen from the ashes, a bright little castle in the small historic area of Phoenix.  It is a gem.  A treasure.  Restored and repaired, it will bring more money per square foot than any modern state-of-the-art darling “home for sale.”

My husband and I often sit on our front porch in the evenings and look down the street.  We live in a neighborhood of resurrected Lazaruses, as my parents call them, homes that have seen the tides of time carry them through periods of respect, rejection…and respect again.

Ours is the perfect neighborhood for an antique car rally.  Indeed, once a year we carry our lawn chairs down the street and sit along Central Avenue.  It’s a neighborhood block party under shimmering street lamps, a friendly celebration of old cars turned new, remodeled …and recharged.

New…grown old…and restored to new again.  It is a process respected for cars and homes.  Surprisingly, restoration is a process that works on us as people, even as we labor to scrub and polish steel and wood.

Restoration.  As we refinish and polish, we reconnect with things eternal…family, simplicity, honor, integrity.  We learn that honor is not conferred from the outside by a modern designer feted as the “latest and greatest.”  Honor is a glow from the inside, private and quiet and still…a light eternal, burning even when we turn our backs and seek the glitter and glamour of fashion and celebrity.

Restoration.  It is a concept that works for ideas just as well as it works for houses and cars.  Virginity…chastity, abstinence, purity…all old words turned new again, like a fresh coat of paint on an antique car.  New words…but it’s still the same old thing.  Love.

No matter how much we want to equate sex with love and confuse the issues, the clarity of truth is a pure light that never waivers.  Love…imbued with patience, fueled with trust…love waits its turn.  Love in its purest form is passion held in check for the benefit of the one true object of my affection.  And sex can wait.

Abstinence is not just an old idea gone bad…outdated and ready for the rubbish pile.  Abstinence works.  It restores health.  It restores hearts.  It restores souls.

In the British Medical Journal an article on abstinence strips away the false glitter of the sexual revolution.  The article says a reduction in the number of sexual partners is the tried and true key to halting spread of HIV.  Here it is, a modern gussied-up term… partner reduction…by any other name…the new and modern is the same old same old…abstinence…the old made new again.

By any other name, abstinence is the sexual revolution of the future…abstinence until marriage…a chastity and purity as old as the hills.  It is the perfection of “partner reduction;” it is the one and only…the person who cares enough to give a heart and a promise eventually perfected with the sexual passion of love committed for a lifetime.

An old sign hangs above the door in our old home restored to new.  My mother bought it at a garage sale, a gilded frame around a German phrase I have since learned in English: Faithful to the End.  Painted in blue, it is the promise of fidelity.  Loyalty.  Eternal virtues of the ultimate friendship, the best of devotion, sanctified in marriage…until death do us part.

Abstinence…abstinence until marriage…ideas being reduced to insignificance by people who think these are worn-out words as old as the hills.

Abstinence…abstinence until marriage…ideas of the future being ushered in as medically necessary to curb life-threatening diseases that promise to take control of out-of-control lives ruled by lust.

Abstinence…the tried-and-true method of reducing one’s sexual partners.  Modern science gives new reasons to respect the values of old.  Abstinence until marriage is the modern tool for preventing STDs and pregnancy…a new coat of paint on eternal truths that continue to glow.

Abstinence until marriage…an idea as old as the hills made new again…love resurrected, life-giving, and eternal.  Faithful to the end…the eternal glow of creation…resurrected…restored…abstinence until marriage, a gift as old as the hills to be renewed forevermore.

July 23, 2004:    My Friend Betty

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Kicking the Tires

Jane Jimenez

Jane Jimenez

November 5, 2004

Kelly and Dane spent the day in furniture stores picking out the perfect leather couch for their new apartment.  They are in love.   They are moving in together.  And they are not married.

“It’s not that we’re against marriage, but we’re just not ready for it,” says Dane.  “It’s a big commitment.”

Kelly nods in agreement.  “We saw both of our parents get divorced.  We love each other, and we’re talking about getting married.  But we don’t want to go through the pain of a divorce.”

Even as Americans are voting to affirm the special estate of marriage between a man and a woman, our children are having a hard time saying “I do.” Instead, like Kelly and Dane, many are taking their “love” for a “test drive,” trying to find out if it is the “marriage kind of love.”  They are kicking the tires before they buy.

The theory is that if they live together, they will be able to test their relationship before they make the serious lifelong commitment of marriage.  If everything works out, if they get along, then they can always get married.  If not, then they can just divide the furniture, decide who keeps the apartment, and go their separate ways.  No harm done.

According to the National Marriage Project, about 60 percent of young adults in America say they plan to live together before marriage.  These high levels of cohabitation have given researchers a solid base of data to compare cohabitation with marriage.  The results of their studies should give Kelly and Dane reason to pause before signing the lease on their apartment.

Dr. Bill Maier sums up the findings.  “Research indicates that couples who cohabit before marriage have a 50 percent higher divorce rate than those who don’t. These couples also have higher rates of domestic violence and are more likely to be involved in sexual affairs. If a cohabiting couple gets pregnant, there is a high probability that the man will leave the relationship within two years, resulting in a single mom raising a fatherless child.”

There are many factors to explain this.  But the most important has to do with the big “C.”  Commitment.

Commitment is more than a feeling.  It is an intentional decision.  It is choosing to love…in good times and bad.  The commitment of marriage is a willingness to step into the future, to face unknown challenges, to give unconditional love, to set one’s personal goals into a joint plan alongside the needs and goals of another person.  If it sounds like a big deal, it is.

Cohabitation, on the other hand, is based almost entirely on feelings.  It is a hope and a dream…with a preplanned exit strategy.  It’s a little deal because the promise exchanged is a little promise.  “I will stay with you until we’re not in love…until it gets hard…until I don’t want to stay with you.”

When couples plan to marry, they must face the big “C”.  They must have a clear understanding of what they are willing and able to give each other….today… tomorrow…for as long as they both shall live.

Cohabitation short circuits the process, fulfilling sexual desires and intermingling finances, allowing the couple to avoid the kind of soul-searching and mutual honesty needed to lay the solid foundation for a marriage.

As quaint as it sounds, traditional old-fashioned dating and courtship was a safe time for couples.  It reserved sex for the future and allowed them to focus on learning about each other.  It was an intentional time of planning for marriage, where the couple sought out advice from friends and counselors.  And if marriage did not result, heartbreak was not compounded with the burden of breaking up a household.

While the initial plan for Kelly and Dane is to “try it out,” it will be a very short time before one of them will begin to long for the safety and security of a permanent commitment.  The big “C”…it always makes its appearance.  And when it does, Kelly and Dane will have a lot at stake.  The surprising experience most couples face in cohabitation is that the pain of “breaking up” can be every bit as intense as divorce.

Please, Dane and Kelly.  Think it over.  Kicking the tires…good strategy for cars.  Bad idea for people.

April 23, 2004:    m…m…m…Married?

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Food for the Brain

Jane Jimenez

Jane Jimenez

October 29, 2004

Garbage in…garbage out.

Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.  Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips.  Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you.  (Prov 4:23-25 NIV)

In September, a national Rand Corp. survey of 1,792 adolescents concluded that teens are impacted by what they watch on television.  Significantly, teens who watch a lot of sexually suggestive programs are almost twice as likely to have sex earlier than those who don’t.

This is no surprise to most parents.  They have been complaining to the entertainment industry and politicians for years and have been rebuffed as a flock of Chicken Littles.  Now parents have research reaffirming common sense, but we must face the larger problem…our collective cowardice in using the truth to guide our personal and societal actions.

Periodically, Americans are jolted to our senses.  Last year, it was Janet’s bare breast.  Last month it was the Rand Corp. survey.  And still…we allow the barrage of filth free access to our children.

Feeding their brains with pictures of vulgarity to the max, we teach our children that vulgarity and promiscuity are just a “normal” part of life in America.  The changes in the life of teens that have followed this cultural shift are shocking.

Prom night used to be a special evening of corsages, pictures, and close dancing that might end in a good night kiss.  No longer.  Now prom night has become a universal expectation for “dates” to have sex…just because.  For younger teens, the “spin the bottle” game of the 50s has evolved into the “rainbow party.”

Doctor Meg Meeker in her book Epidemic tells of her teenage patient Allyson who was traumatized when a friend took her to a rainbow party.  “After she arrived, several girls (all in the eighth grade) were given different shades of lipstick and told to perform oral sex on different boys to give them ‘rainbows.’”

These teens are simply reenacting the sexual standards we set for them in the culture at large.  And television is the great cultural medium shaking its “booty” at our children.  Research confirms what we knew all along…so…now what?

Now that we are enlightened, now that our common sense is “informed” by social research, what are we willing to do to create a society that teaches our children healthy, respectful behavior based on sexuality that honors restraint and propriety?

Michael Powell, chairman of the Federal Communications Commission, performs microscopic surgery on free television, working to enforce limits on debauchery.  But he works with one hand tied behind his back.

Under a separate set of regulations, cable, satellite, radio and the Internet are free to assault our children, forcing entry through our homes and into their minds.  Public libraries chafe at efforts to restrict use of public funds to provide sexual material to patrons, including children.

Pollution of our culture leaves us no sanctuary or refuge; the stench wafts its way uncontrolled across our nation.  Entertainment continues to teach our children that sex is an insatiable appetite with no limits.

Rapper Eminem fuels a passion for lust married with hate and violence.  Abercrombie & Fitch promotes group sex in catalogues and stores marketing clothes to teens.  Wife swapping is reality television.  And cultural icon Nicole sexually seduces a ten-year-old on the big screen “for the sake of art.”

What good is it for us to have common sense and to have our good judgment confirmed by research if we lack the courage to change?  How will we change what our children learn if we refuse to change what we feed them for the mind?

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.  (Phil 4:8 NIV)

Food for the brain.

Food for the heart.

Food for the soul.

Garbage in…garbage out.

July 2, 2004:    Abused by Freedom

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